Happy Wives Club


Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated 36 years of wedded bliss. We celebrated quietly, as we usually do, without a lot of fanfare, yet savoring our precious time together. We enjoyed a quiet dinner at our favorite Vietnamese restaurant, followed by a quick visit with my mother, who lives in memory care. Then home to take our dog for his evening stroll and a quick visit with our neighbor. It was a quiet, simple evening, not too much different from any other evening. Yet, special to both of us to commemorate the day so long ago when we took vows to share our lives together.

We don’t typically go in for fancy gifts on our anniversary. This year I bought him a houseplant and a bottle of wine. He brought me some red roses and a new book, Happy Wives Club by Fawn Weaver. I laughed at the curious title wondering how he had discovered such a book. I wondered what the content of such a book would be about, thinking it might be referring to another Desperate Housewives scenario. However, upon a closer look, I discovered the book is about one woman’s quest to share stories from women all over the globe about the joys of marriage.

How refreshing!  At a time when the world is filled with negative portrayals of marriage and the divorce rate is sky-high, there is one woman dedicated to finding and sharing the joys of a happy and enduring marriage. I have only read the first two chapters, but I already know this will be a book I will treasure and it will find a spot in my permanent library, never to be given away.

As I reflect over the few posts that I have included in this blog, I realize most of my writing is about simple living and searching for peace and serenity.  I realize how very fortunate I am to have married my best friend who has always supported me through the good times and the more difficult times no matter what the situation.  As we enjoy our days together, we frequently choose to spend our time working in our garden, visiting my mother, and celebrating special occasions at home with our family and friends. Together we have chosen to keep things simple.  We try not to overcrowd our lives with busyness.  We try not to accumulate debt.  We focus on enjoying simple, everyday pleasures together.


Happy Anniversary!

Dedicated to my husband and best friend!

In Search of Simplicity

I crave a simple life. A life that is uncluttered, peaceful and serene.  In my mind, I can picture exactly what this life should look like.  I picture my home clean and uncluttered with lots of white mixed with neutrals and textures. A peaceful place to reside.  I picture days clean and uncluttered combining a sweet mix of meditation, healthy activities and creative time.  Is this realistic?  Probably not.  However, for me it is a goal worth striving for.



I have recently been reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, a book about getting rid of the clutter in your home.  Her advise is to get rid of everything in your home that does not “spark joy.” She suggests that you hold each item in your hand and if it does not spark joy than it is history.  You then thank the item for its service as you say your good-byes.  That process may sound silly, but if you have attachment issues, it could be helpful in your quest to releasing your possessions.


This isn’t my first venture into getting rid of clutter, or tidying up as Kondo calls it.  I’ve been trying to declutter my home for several years now!! However, Kondo’s recommendation is to get rid of all your clutter in one fell swoop, not more than six months. So now I have a deadline!  I’m using July 6 as my start-up date which means I should be completely finished by January 6, 2016!  I will keep you posted on my progress!

I am familiar with the blog Becoming Minimalist  and other like-minded souls. Their doctrine is that cutting back on your possessions will allow you more time and more freedom to live your life as you really choose.  Once your free of so many possessions, you have the time to devote to creative activities or travel or whatever you might choose.   In accordance with this, Kondo’s promise is that if you tidy up your home one time thoroughly and completely, you will then have the freedom to spend your time in a more relaxing and creative way.

In my quest for serenity and simplicity, I am going to take Kondo up on her challenge.  Once again, I am going to attempt to release my possessions in search of a sweeter, simpler life.  Wish me luck!


Life is a journey. Enjoy the ride!